The article entitled "Can Men and Women Be Friends?" explains how a male-female relationship can be difficult. The author Camille Chatterjee describes that although it is hard to form this type of relationship, they can be very rewarding.
Some challenges one can face are "jealousy plagues many rational people when a significant other befriends someone of the opposite sex." Other challenges are, "defining the friendship, dealing with sexual attraction, seeing each other as equals, facing people's responses to the relationship, and meeting in the first place." You must overcome all of these challenges before you can have a true cross-sex friendship.
Male-female friendships are necessary because both sexes must learn to communicate and understand the other. This type of friendship is also necessary because men confide in women things they normally wouldn't in their male friends, and women look for insight on how men really think. Overall, Chatterjee comes to the conclusion that men and women can in fact be friends, but there are many challenges you must overcome before you can have a cross-sex friendship.
7 comments:
I believe that men and women can be truly friends, but only under some circumstances. For me, I have never been able to stay friends with exes, but some of my friends have. In my opinion, I find that yes you can be friends with a member of the opposite sex without having trouble, unless you once dated. Then I believe that it is difficult to stay and be friends. But other than that, then yes. Girls and guys can be friends, sometimes the opposite sex is the best friend that you have.
I believe that the opposite sex can be friends, for me I get along better with guys because they do not bring along drama and are not as sensitive as girls. Girls that are friends tend to have more drama and fight more so i believe that you have to have the one friend of the opposite sex that you can go to and talk to without the drama. So, yes i do believe that men and women can truly be equal friends.
I agree with the article that it is possible for men and women to be friends if there are specific boundries set to make sure that neither person violates their friendship and there is no confusion about feelings.
I believe that a friendship is a friendship, whether it be between two people of the same sex, or between a boy and a girl. Just because a guy and a girl are friends, doesn't mean that they "like" each other. I have a guy friend that's like a brother to me; I've known him since 5th grade and our mothers are best friends. That doesn't mean I fight against an attraction for him, nor have I ever had to. When this article suggests that boys and girls can only be "just friends" when certain guidelines and conditions are met, I disagree. That's not always true. A friendship is formed if two people get along and have fun hanging out with each other, whether they be the same sex or the opposite sex.
I do believe that men and women can most definetly be equal friends. I believe that there are some boundries that are always set between the sexes and for different people thse are different bounaries allong with different levels of friendship, but i do believe that its possible to have an equal friendship as boy and girl. In fact i think its easier because theres just a bigger difference between boys and girls rather than same sex friendships. For instance youy cant usually get in a fight with your friend over how good looking a girl is if your best friend, is a girl.
I agree with the article when it states that men and women can indeed be friends, as long as boundaries are set. I feel that in a co-ed relationship, sometimes one person begins to develop feelings for the other, causing serious problems in the friendship. I find it comforting to have friends of the opposite sex so I can escape from girl drama, and just be myself with no strings attached. If I know that i want to be friends with someone, but they like me, I always make sure that I tell them how I feel. So overall, I believe that men and women can be friends, under certain "rules" if you will.
Men and women can be equal friends as long as no sexual feelings remain or there is no strong attraction to each other. Men can give women a different perspective on circumstances that they have to go through and give them insight on how the opposite sex feels towards a situation. The same applies for women with men. Men and women can also be close friends because less drama is associated with men than with women in general which can lead to a longer lasting friendship because of less stress to the relationship. Overall, women and men can make great friends in each other compared to same sex friendships.
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