Is there anyone you don't get along with? Do you think these methods would work? Why or why not?

This article was called Everybody Marries the Wrong Person by Christine Meinecke, PhD, and was all about giving in to other’s demands and setting limits so they don’t take the mile when you give them an inch.

It talks about how you can’t change people, and the only way to help the situation is to change yourself, your reactions to things, expectations and negative thoughts. When you want someone to change something, you can ask them directly, but only once. Asking once is responsible, more than once is nagging. 

These are the four steps: Reinforce desired behavior, do not reinforce undesired behavior, let natural consequences emerge, and do not punish. These are similar to child development tactics. These also work on adults! You just have to praise them for doing the right thing, do no praise them for the wrong behaviors, let the consequences for their actions affect them, and don’t punish them for behaviors-you’re not their parent. The change to make is the last one- eliminate punishment, it’s ridiculous how effective it is. 

Is there anyone you don't get along with? Do you think these methods would work? Why or why not?

6 comments:

Anonymous said...

Yes, there are people I do not get a long with but I do not believe all of these methods would work for everyone. I do agree that you should praise someone for doing something right, or something that you agree and think is good or nice. But, if someone does something that bothers you I do not think you should ignore it and let natural consequences happen. A natural consequence may not necessarily happen and then they'll continue doing said thing. I believe that if someone does something that bothers you, you should tell them, once as it says in the article, and not punish them, and if they do it again, then let a punish ride no matter what there age is.

Deanna Rosa

Unknown said...

Ya there are certain people i dont get along with but i think these methods will only work with some but not all people.

Anonymous said...

Some of these methods will work but depending on the person. There are people who i don't get along with but not all of these methods will help me with some of the people


Claude Cardoso

dpeterson said...

Every person is different so the methods will work differently on poeple. One might work on one person while another might work on another person.

Anonymous said...

Emi Z.

Yes there a people I do not get along with. I think that these methods could work and also agree with others that it depends on the person. Everyone could react differently in this situation and in my opinion I think that if you have a problem with someone, you should tell them how you feel and not let them make you feel bad. I think it matters how you handle a person and whether you let them affect you or not.

ashley said...

Yes there are people that I don't get along with. I believe that these methods could work but I also believe it depends on the situation and the person. Every person responds to methods in their own ways.