The belief that men and women cannot be friends without stirring up some kinds of intime emotions originates from times in history when the main reason men and women got together was for romance, because of the different placement they had in society.
It is essential for men and women to define the relationship and distinguish romantic, intime, and friendly feelings and create equality between both genders, in order for their friendship to work and thrive.
Research presented in the article shows that both men and women greatly benefit from cross-ses friendship and that it is very emotionally supportive. However, having cross-ses friendships becomes harder when a person is in a serious romantic relationship or in marriage. Like in any type of relationship, communication is key for success.
Do you agree with this data and believe that men and women can be real friends?
13 comments:
I do believe women and men can be real friends, but in the relationship you will come to a point where one or the other will have some types of feelings towards each other. I think its kind of inevitable that one will fall for the other when a boy and girl are best friends; your with this person all the time, you share everything with them, you laugh, you cry… you form an attachment and then the feelings emerge. I think it is a lot harder having opposite sex friends when you become married or form serious relationships because jealousy always happens. I also do think that having opposite sex friends are beneficial, because sometimes your own sex becomes quite annoying, and usually the opposite sex can help you out in ways that your own sex cannot do (ex: advice).
I do believe that men and women can be true friends without there being any sexual tension. I feel this is true because not every relationship we have is necessarily sexual. Just because someone is of a different gender does not mean that you will fall in love with them. There has to be an attraction to that person first of all, if there isn’t any then there is no romance and a friend ship is built. When there is an attraction for one another then that where you see romance emerge. I feel it really depends on the type of person you and the other person are and also if you even get along with each other. Not every situation will have this outcome, and there are many instances where a man and a woman are friends and nothing more.
-- Lauren Bush Psyc. Period 1
I personally feel that most men and women can be friends. I also feel that at some point in time, either the male or female will gain "more than friend" feelings for the other person. It is at that point that matters. If they let those feelings get in the way of the friendship, look past it, or allow those feelings to help start a real relationship.
I think that men and women can be true friends, but sometimes they develop feelings fro that person which can either wreck they're friendship or make it into something more. I also think that there are some men and women who can be friends without getting attracted to eachother and keeping it a true friendship.
Rachel Pac
As most everyone mentioned here, after a bit of time in a close, friendly relationship, it is likely that one will probably develop feelings that are more than just friendship. I believe that this is the case and if they decide to make their relationship a romantic one and things don't work out, their relationship could be damaged and not be the same.
I think that men and women can indeed be true friends. But there is a high possibility that one will develop true feelings of love towards the other one. It is most likely that it is easier to have a friend of the same sex than having a friend of the opposite sex because there is a possibility that one will be attracted to the other. But there isn't always an attraction of course.
I believe men and women could be friends without having any kind of intimate relationship. there's people that will always want to be more than friends but that doesnt mean everyone wants more than a friendship. I have male friends i actually have more male friends than females and i do not have any kind of attraction to them i see them as a brother figure or just someone that i could count on for advise if i need anything. i dont trust a lot of females because they will sometimes give you bad advise because they're jelouse of what you have, and they cant. but in my opinion there's nothing wrong with being friends with the opposite sex.
I believe that men and women can be friends, and remain only friends until a certain point. It is human nature to have sexual urges or feelings towards the opposite sex, generally speaking. Men and women are naturally attracted to each other and want to indulge in their primal instincts, which include sexual gratification and reproduction. Men want to spread their seed and women want the security and stability men can bring. Yet of course, there are always exceptions.
I definately believe that men and women can be real friends. I have way more guy friends then girl friends and I am not attracted to them. Ive actually never been attracted to my friends. I think differently of new guys that I meet than friends Ive known for a long time. I know my friends to well I know how that are and the things they do and most of the time its not something i would approve of. However, with new people there is always things to learn and you dont know much about them so new people are interesting.
I think that men and women can be friends with out any sexual feelings and that is just a stereotypical thing society places on us. Of course both men and women are different and have obvious things that set us apart but at the same time there are things that keep us together. The friends you make in you life time are not based off gender but on the individual themselves.
I do belive that men and women can be true friends. But I also feel that sometimes when men and women are freinds they may develop some sexual feelings for each other that may or may not play out. But i do not think that it is like this for every male/female friendship. You can be friends with a girl and not like her or you can be friends with a boy and not like him, it is possiable.
i personally feel strongly about that fact that no matter what there is going to be some sexual feelings. i believe it is in our human nature to have those kinds of feelings. wiether it be someone we really like or just at one quick moment you have this sudden urge. I don't believe that boys and girls can be just friends all the time i feel there are moments where we can so to speak slip up.
I believe that men and women can only be friends to a certain point. It is very dependent on the closeness of the relationship. I personally believe that women and men cannot be very close friends with out one having feelings for another. It is natural to be attracted to the opposite sex that you have a close relationship with. I just don't think it is possible to do.
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