This article talked about the four steps to disarm complex jealosy.
They were,
1-Don't trust obesssions,
2-Regulate core hurts,
3-Focus on compassion,not trust, and
4-Follow the self-correcting motivation of simply jealousy.
Do you believe if you follow these steps it can disarm complex jealosy, and lead your relationships in the right direction?
10 comments:
yes i belive so alot of girls tend to overeact to certain signs. They will always assume that the guy is cheating and that isnt fair. These four steps if followed correctly could stabalize a relationship and really keep it in check. Jealousy is always breaking couples up and it is all easily avoidable.
- Nick Lebron
I believe that if these steps are followed that it is possible for jealousy to be avoided and the relationship could work out fine. It also depends on the person though who is trying to not be jealous because they have to be strong enough and determined enough to actually follow the steps and make it happen so that they can feel better and better themselves and their relationship. If the person isn't strong enough and can't force themselves to follow these steps and deal with the hurt, then the relationship could possibly fail.
Cassie DeCorleto
I do think that if these steps are followed then jealousy could be disarmed and the relationship could take on the right path. People who become easily jealous need to realize it's not worth their time and that it could easily be avoided since those situations can be misleading and can have completely different meanings. I think that by following these steps, a person will realize how easy it is to avoid complex jealousy and they will eventually realize how much better their relationship could get once it gets on the right tracks, without any jealousy.
Luke Dola
mmmm I don't think jealousy can ever be "disarmed". its natural. I don't know why people try so hard all the time to fight things that are just inevitable when you should just own it and accept it. All of our emotions are primal instincts and I say, if it ain't broken, don't fix it. Now some people are crazy with jealousy and are just total nutters, but they have more serious underlying issues! Infrequent bouts of jealousy are normal and healthy. Plus, I'm willing to bet nobody could ever fully follow these steps and successfully never have a jealousy issue again. Like I said, jealousy is a natural emotions that is a part of human nature.
-Cristina Theriault
I agree with Cristina. There is no real way to avoid jealousy, it just happens. This sounds like a way that someone can try to not become jealous, or attempt to not become jealous, but it is something that is not avoidable. No matter how hard someone will try to fake it, it will not work, eventually they will become jealous and it most likely will be worse than ever. I do think that people can try to use these steps and for some it may work, it all just depends on the person, and how willing they truly are to change if they want to lead their relationship to the "right path."
- Cally Allen
Disarming jealousy is trying to get rid of a human emotion, which is impossible. Not only is it a human emotion,this type of jealousy has the word complex in it. It's extremely hard to overcome it, and when overcome, it's not just gone forever, but just pushed away for the time being in order for a person to feel better personally. In terms of leading relationships in the right direction, however, I believe that trying to rid of complex jealousy will make for healthier relationships. Obsessions are normally crazy, unethical thoughts that should always be avoided, compassion in a relationship is more important than anything, and in order to not be jealous, you need to do it on your own. It's your feeling, and noone can get rid of it for you.
Kevin Pont
I do not believe that jealously can ever be "disarmed". It is an emotion that comes naturally with our make-up, and to try and eliminate it would essentially throw off the balance of the human race as a whole. while the urges of jealously can be suppressed, there are no steps that can take out the feelings felt by someone when they experience moments of jealously.
-Mariah Thomas
I think that if you follow these rules then your relationship can possibly go in the right direction and can be better off. However I do not think jealousy can be completely disarmed. Like many others said, jealousy is apart of nature and all people at some point will experience jealousy.
Brianna Maylor (:
Yes, I do believe that doing these steps would help soften jelousy. Humans by nature are easily swept by emotion, but if an individual recognizes a negative emotion such as hatred or jelousy before it grows into a large and passionate emotion, the feelings can be calmed down and a person can think more clearly from a perspective. If I ever felt jelousy and read this article, I would take these steps.
Natalia Zagula
I completely think that if these steps are followed that jealousy will not happen. I do think that in relationships that jealousy is a huge problem and we have to learn to control that normal human feeling. Both boys and girls have this problem and its just something we have to live with.
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