Jealousy: Love's Destroyer

Jealousy is a very common thing in life. If you see the boy or girl you like with another person and you get that tinny little feeling in your gut. 

The feeling of betryal and abandoment yup that's jealousy. In the article you learn about how jealousy can take over a relationship and turn it raw. No one likes an overbearing control raged person who needs to know your every place. 


In your opinion is jealousy love's destroyer? Why?

14 comments:

Momma Hunt said...

I would agree with this article that jealousy will be the end of most relationship adult, teen, romantic, or friendship. Just think of how many fights or even the end of friendships you can think of that have ended of one person being jealous about how much time one person is spending with other people!

Gstewart said...

I would have to agree that jealousy can and most likely, will end a relationship of any form. In fact, a family friend of mine was talking to me about how she doesn't feel like she's good enough sometimes because she can't afford all of the "nice" things her friends have. These feelings can lead to jealousy and resentment, thus destroying a friendship or something more.I've also been in a relationship with an extremely jealous person, he would stalk my internet profiles, talk to my friends to get information on where I was or who I was talking to, he also would turn very aggressive if I wasn't paying attention to him only. This was a complete turn off and actually, quite frightening. Needless to say, it didn't work out. Jealously, clearly, was the main downfall. All in all, from personal expierences and input from friends, jealousy can be a destroyer of any relationship.

Amy Fischl said...

In my opinion jealousy can be love’s destroyer. When it comes to love whether it is towards family, friends, or a significant other, you’re always going long for something more with that person based off of other observations or needs (which is a jealous instinct). An example of this would be 2 couples. Lets say the first couple is very in love; the man buys the woman flowers, and does thoughtful things for her all the time. The second couple is also in love, but the man only show thoughtful gesture once in a while, and maybe isn’t so attentive. The women from the second couple could look at the other women and form a jealous heart, due to her wanting the things in her relationship she’s not getting. She becomes envious of that other woman now, and may demand more from her man. This leads me to my second point Carlee actually brought up in her presentation, that sometimes jealousy can drive the one you love away… which I think is quite common. Back to my example… the woman demanding more can quickly turn the man’s feelings into a different direction; resulting in him not wanting to be with her any longer. The woman’s jealous thoughts can even turn HER feelings away from him because she feels the man isn’t loving enough or caring like the other; so why be with someone not giving her what she wants. In the end, jealousy can destroy something so quickly that you’ve worked so long to get; love.

mgilbert said...

I think that it is loves destroyer because you cant love someone if your jealous. jealousy annoys everyone. Most of the time people dont want to be around someone who is jealous.

Dan Mowchan said...

I would agree that jealousy can be love's destroyer in many relationships. I think that, for some, jealously is something that cannot be avoided and is simply part of their lives. If there is enough communication in your relationship, and your significant other (or friend, family member, etc) can understand your point of view and why you may be jealous then I believe it is something that can be overcome.

Anonymous said...

I agree with the idea that "jealousy is love's destroyer". Jealousy can be caused from anything and form into something much bigger. Whether it be involved with family, friends, or a romantic relationship, jealousy can destroy the love one has for someone else. Within a family, an older child may become jealous of his or her newborn sibling because Mommy doesn't pay him or her enough attention anymore. Jealousy becomes more common among friends. One friend may have better grades, or is more athletic. Whatever it may be, something so small such as those examples can cause a friendship to end. The most common form of jealousy is, in my opinion, always within a romantic relationship. Couples may be jealous of each other, what other couples have or the fact that one partner is being flirty with someone other than their boyfriend or girlfriend. "And jealousy is the cousin of greed." (Cute Is What We Aim For - The Curse of Curves). Jealousy is caused from what you don't have and what you want to have. If everyone would be satisfied with what they have rather than what they want, jealousy wouldn't be so prevalent!

e kiniry said...

I personally do think that jealousy can be love's destroyer in most cases. Like Carlee said in her presentation, there are different types and stages in jealousy. I think that once you pass the healthy stage of jealousy that pushes you towards achieving more, you move on to a dangerous stage that can end most relationships. For example, if you are in a good relationship for 6 months and then something happens such as one person moves a little farther away or goes to a different school, this becomes a trust issue. If there isn't trust, jealousy forms and starts to drive people farther and farther away. Although it comes on strong, jealousy is usually unavoidable and is hard to control. This is why it leads itself to be love's destroyer.

Lauren said...

I agree that jealousy can be "loves destroyer" because even though there are good and bad types of jealousy this would be a perfect example of a bad type of jealousy. When you become so jealous of something or someone you can't have, it can become and obsession and can become extremely unhealthy. Not only that but it can become dangerous in the sense that you want something so much that you would go out of your way to make sure nobody else could have it. This could be anything from hiding or taking the subject hostage to terminating or killing the subject you desire so badly. This is to ensure that no one else has it. This is the reason why jealousy can destroy not only love but your entire life.

rwilliams said...

I agree that jealousy can be loves destroyer because jealousy is unhealthy in any relationship. If a person is jealous than that shows that they are insecure or dont have complete trust in a situation. A jealous person is hard to be around, therefore, continuing a realtionship could be difficult. However, jealousy is not loves destroyer in all cases.

Danielle Grecki said...

I definately believe that jealousy is the destroyer of love. They say jealousy is the little green person who sits on your shoulder and scratches at you until you burst. This is so true. For example, the boy you like is talking to another girl and it gets you so ticked off that you start a rumor about that girl. Not only did you just ruin their chances of a relationship it gets back that you started the rumor, so it ruins your chance as well. Jealousy is a terrible thing and people really need to try to stay as far away from jealousy as possible.

Jimmelys said...

In my opinion jealousy is love destroyer. one of the reasons why i believe jealousy is love destroyer is becasuse even though im young i deal with it before. I had a boyfriend that was really jealous and that was one of the reasons why we broke up, it showed how he was insecure and from there it leads to trust and you cant be with someone you dont trust. It never got fisical but i do believe jealousy can cause fisical violent and even death. In my opinion i think the fact that you love that person so much and you feel insecure and your so afraid of losing them is what may cause this jealousy or also it could be cause from past experiences. so i believe jealousy is love destroyer but is not always going to be the case of the love destroy but it is one of the reasons. and i do advice people to stay away from it or try and avoid it as much as possible. :)

Anonymous said...

I beleieve jelousy is loves destroyer because once you frst start getting jelous you get so wrapped up in it you just end up driving the other person away. Also no on wants to be with someone who is overly jelous and overbearing of what you do. Jelousy just gets worse and worse until it wrecks the relationship.
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Brett Bainer said...

I believe that jealousy is a huge part of love's destroyer. Jealousy could be a very simple small thing, but sometimes could live up to the expectations of (for you Gleeks) when Mercedes through a rock through this guy's window that she liked. She did this because she was jealous that he was hitting on another girl.

Shayne said...

I think jealousy is definitely a love destroyer. It can only cause false insecurities in a relationship that only complicate things and makes it unhealthy where both people are unhappy leading to destructive
relationship or even a break up.