It is said that romantic love is made up of two aspects, the attraction to external appearance and praiseworthiness (Positively appraising personal characteristics). However it’s not that basic for every one because everyone’s romantic love is different. Individual’s romantic love runs different from person to person; romantic love comes at different points in their life because everyone has certain expectations for love/weight they carry in looking for a lover.
Many people wish they could have less attachment to attraction and many people think the opposite, they wish they could be more spontaneous and less calculated. Still people usually aren’t aware of the great weight they assign to the pattern of attractiveness. They tend to claim they assign greater weight to the pattern of praiseworthiness. It also differs for men and women; Women tend to look at men’s eyes, whereas men initially look at women’s bodies. That study also proves why women are more attracted to a mans personality because eyes are perceived as the best indicators of one’s character.
We may love a person who is objectively not the most handsome or the wisest person in the world, but nerveless has other characteristics which are highly regarded by the lover. Accordingly, love maybe around the corner, but not every corner is the proper one.
Do you think you are aware of the expectations/weight you carry for your future lover ?
Do you think you are aware of the expectations/weight you carry for your future lover ?
5 comments:
no i dont believe that im aware of the expectations that i carry for my furture lover. That is so because i dont know what im really attracted to because there maybe a person that you wouldnt think you like but come to find out that you may find other traits that weight out the bad. Also its the same way that a another person may not think that im there type but they find out that they are attracted to me.
I think subconsciously we have our future lover "pre-destined." I feel that we choose a lover based on what we want in a person, and what we're attracted to and won't get sick of after a long time. The feeling we get when you know you connect with someone i think is your minds realization that its found someone that it knows it will love.
Matt Spring
I beleive that in the eye of the beholder, we tend to fall for a loved one because they have similar traits or traits that we seem to want and acknowledge. We are attracted to what we want and dislike anything that we had before. The weights and expectations are carried highly i think for everyone, each person values traits more than others and are searching for those in particuluar.
I don't think I'm aware of the expectations of my future lover. I don't think that love is pre-determined so I don't know who will be attracted to my personality.
-David Kusinski
I do not think I have expectations for my future lover. I think love just happens naturally and you don't have a check list of things you want in a person.
-Rachel Wallace
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